Be Grateful Everyday!!!

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“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget
that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.”
John Fitzgerald Kennedy

I was watching TV last night with my family and it amazed me how the media is bombarding us with advertisements about how “at this time of year” we all need to gather and give thanks for all that we possess. While I agree with the media’s message, I take exception to the implied suggestion that we should focus on our ability to be grateful only once a year. Don’t get me wrong, I know that we all have our own burdens and problems that we have to deal with, but when we take the time to take a step back and look at our life in a comprehensive fashion, I truly believe that most of will agree that we have so much more to be grateful for in this world than we care to admit.

I have a suggestion that my Business coach gave me that really helped my outlook on life and I how attempt to deal with most issues. Take the time to humble yourself and hold a 3 to 5 minute “gratitude session” each day where you can think of WHO and WHAT you are grateful for in your life. I think you will be amazed how much of a better outlook you will have on all that matters to you. Doing this will help you keep focused on the important people and things in your life that deserve your attention and gratitude. Remember, the simple expression “Thank you” are two of the most powerful words that one can have in their lexicon.. The practice of living a grateful life widens the road to success and makes it easier to navigate.

With all of that said, let me take this opportunity to extend a very heartfelt THANK YOU to all of you who allow me to be a small part of your lives once a week. I wish you and your entire family a wonderful and blessed Thanksgiving holiday filled with God’s blessings and the creation of many memories that will hold your gratitude for many years to come.

See you out there,

Gary Schwary
NMLS #258980
909-816-1141

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Practice Your Skills To Win The Game!!

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“Practice doesn’t make perfect, nor is it supposed to.
Practice is about increasing your repertoire of ways to recover from your mistakes”
Joan Gutin

I have the pleasure of coaching my 9 year old daughter’s soccer team. This past weekend they won their game, but it wasn’t just the win that resonated with me–it’s HOW they won it. I watched these 8 & 9 year old little girls pass the ball, cross the ball, and take the ball away from their opponents almost at will. After the game, one of the girls exclaimed in our post game huddle, “All that practicing you made us do really paid off, Coach!” I smiled because, as was evidenced on the field, it obviously did.

At the beginning of the season, these same 8 girls were started out as the typical “bunch-ball” team. Yet, over the last 11 weeks they have transformed into a team that plays well in their respective positions and dominates other teams that are still in the “bunch-ball mode.” Don’t get me wrong and assume that our team is perfect. On the contrary, we make A LOT of mistakes. But this is precisely where Ms. Gutin’s point comes in to play: Practice does NOT make perfect. However, by practicing as much as we do, our team is able to work through these mistakes and recover so that by game time all the girls know exactly what they need to do to have a better chance at securing the win.

We all can learn from these young ladies if we ask questions like: When is the last time we reviewed our presentation to a prospective client or looked at our follow up process? When is the last time you held a meeting with your accountability partner or followed through on something that a family member or significant other asked you to do.?

We must continue to PRACTICE our skills in our business and personal lives so that those skills don’t atrophy like an unused muscle. More importantly, the practice will produce a more prepared self so that when we do make a mistake in the course of our “game” we, like these 8 & 9 year old girls, can correct it and turn it into a victory for us and our team.

See you out there,

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“Know Where You Are Going”

KNOW WHERE YOU ARE GOING

Good Morning…

Here is your Wednesday Widget of Wisdom for November 5, 2014

Close your eyes and imagine that you are being interviewed on your 100th birthday. What are the top five things you would LOVE to tell reporters that you have accomplished? Now open your eyes and WRITE THEM DOWN!

You now have a fresh start on life!

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Our business is a “roller coaster” type business. There are gigantic peaks and tumultuous drops and everything in between. In addition to those inconsistencies, we ride through our business at super high speeds—but that’s what makes it fun, right?

The point I drew out of this week’s quote is that our business, like the roller coaster, moves very fast. Many of us do not take the time to step back and reflect on what we need to do going forward in our lives. Far too often we just take a “catch as catch can” approach and assume that that will work.

On the contrary, people that enjoy success in their business and personal journeys have a “crystal-clear” vision of what they want to accomplish. Their action plan is so clear and vivid that they create and write down plans of action to carry those visions out to reality. Think about it, you can ride a roller coaster a thousand times and know where every dip and sharp turn is, yet you still get a tremendous thrill from the journey each time you ride it.

Our life is the same way! Knowing where you are going or better yet, what is coming at you, doesn’t decrease the pleasure of the journey, but it actually enhances it. Of course, even when we know where we are going, life has a way of throwing us an unexpected twist or a thrilling turn. The point is to enjoy those too.

Take the time right know to go someplace where you won’t be disturbed and write down what you would like to accomplish in 2015. When you do, share them with a loved one or an accountability partner and together work towards realizing your vision. You will find that it is much easier than you think and you just might find it to be an enjoyable ride as well.

See you out there,

Gary Schwary
NMLS #258980
909-816-1141

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Wednesday Widget of Wisdom….Success takes time!!

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Hello…

Here is your Wednesday Widget of Wisdom for October 29, 2014. I hope you enjoy it!

“You CAN have it all.
You just can’t have it all at one time.”

Oprah Winfrey

We live in an instant-gratification society. I mean, do we really, absolutely, positively have to have it overnight? NO!!! But Federal Express built a multi-billion dollar corporation on that one simple premise. That concept was so strong that it convinced the United States Post Office and the largest ground transportation company in the world, UPS, to change the way it operated. Bottom line is…WE WANT IT NOW!!!

Well, there are some things that just don’t happen that way and success is one of them. For the most part, the gift of success is developed over a long period of time. Take, for example, the task of putting a jigsaw puzzle together. You use the picture on the box as your guide and motivation knowing that when your job is complete you will be enriched by having duplicated the beautiful picture. While this is a very tedious process, with each piece that fits there is a small reward of accomplishment knowing that you are building towards the bigger prize, which is the completed picture on the box.

So it should be with your “Business Picture.” While the “picture on the box” of the jigsaw puzzle is the guide that one follows to reach the completed task so should your business plan be the guide to help you complete and realize your goals. Each day, make it a point to fit one or maybe even two or three pieces of your “success jigsaw” together. Take respite in the fact that every piece and action is valuable. Each and everyday make it a point to start doing the little things that all add up to bigger accomplishments that will help you realize your goals. It is a simple formula of patience, persistence and focus that will result in a Success Masterpiece suitable for framing. Good luck!!!

See you out there,

Gary Schwary
NMLS #258980
909-816-1141

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NEVER SETTLE!!!

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Good Morning…

Here is your Wednesday Widget of Wisdom for October 22, 2014. I hope you enjoy it.

“HERE’S A GLORIOUS THOUGHT
YOU DON’T HAVE TO SETTLE!!
EVER!!!
IN LIFE!!— IN LOVE!!—IN YOUR CAREER!
NOT ANYWHERE!!!”
― Mandy Hale

Have you ever had a night when you just couldn’t fall asleep? If so, you know what I mean, you toss and turn all night but the Sandman is ignoring you. Finally, in a moment of frustration, you go to the couch and even though you know it will kill your back and leave you with a stiff neck in the morning, you park yourself there and fall asleep from exhaustion. Your desire for “succeeding” at getting a good night’s sleep forced you into settling for less than what you had (a big comfortable bed) and redefining for yourself what a good nights sleep would feel like.

I am of the belief that too many of us settle for less in our business and personal lives. We find ourselves going along just fine and then at the first sign of inconvenience or difficulty, we immediately look for the “easy way out” because we don’t want to put forth the effort. The tragedy about this is that we end up selling ourselves short and miss a ton of amazing opportunities. You see, if we truly believed in who we are then we would take the extra steps, yards or miles to make sure that we NEVER settle for less—in fact, we would demand more because we know we are worth it.

I liken it to the SPACE MOUNTAIN ride at Disneyland. If you’ve never been on it, the ride is a fast paced roller coaster that has twist and turns you can’t anticipate because you are taking the ride in virtual darkness. There are at least 4 or 5 “chicken-exits” one can use while waiting in line for those that want to bail out and not make the effort to get on the ride. Unfortunately, those individuals miss out on one of the best rides ever designed, all because they didn’t feel they were able to handle the ride.

So the question for you today is, “How many ‘Chicken-Exits’ will you take in your business or personal success journey because you prefer the easy way out”? Start today believing in the fact that you will NEVER settle for less in any part of your life. Start today knowing that you deserve more in life. Once you make that determination and realize that settling is not an option, you will finally understand that life is a tremendously thrilling voyage—enjoy the ride!!

See you out there!

Gary Schwary
NMLS#258980
909-816-1141

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YOU HAVE TO INVEST IN YOURSELF!!!

happyWednesday Widget of Wisdom for October 1, 2014

“Don’t limit investing to the financial world.
Occasionally, invest in yourself and you will be richly rewarded”
Charles Schwab

We all work very hard at our jobs. Staying focused on our business or personal success journey can be very time demanding and sometimes has us working morning, noon, and night. It might be a project at work that has a fast approaching deadline, or a personal relationship that emotionally drains you. It could be that big client you are trying to land and make your own, or something as simple as the everyday activities of running a family. Because of these ”time demands,” some of us rarely take the time to do things that make ourselves happy. This is where Schwab’s quote really comes into play. YOU HAVE TO INVEST IN YOURSELF. Take the time to create activities that’ll help you find personal happiness. By doing this, you may be very surprised by how much happiness you’ll find in all parts of the “success journey” I mentioned earlier.

Others can bring happiness to you but if you’re not receptive to it you’ll find that it’ll bounce off you like a rubber ball against a brick wall. Look at the successful people in this world—they’re receptive to happiness and when it comes their way they embrace it and make it their own. So should it be with you. When happiness comes your way, MAKE THE TIME to accept it and incorporate it into your life plan.

One last thing. I am fully aware that contrary to all the Fairy Tales our parents read to us growing up, the world is not full of Rainbows and Unicorns. I know that happiness isn’t camped on every street corner we drive by. But that doesn’t mean that happiness doesn’t exist.

If you start today by investing in yourself personally, you may just find that not only are you cashing in on the “Happiness Lottery” but those around you, especially your loved ones will be sharing in that jackpot as well.

See you out there!

Gary Schwary
NMLS#258980
909-816-1141

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Listen to Taylor Swift

September 10, 2014

Here is your Wednesday Widget of Wisdom for September 10, 2014. I hope you enjoy it.

“Wretched are those who are vindictive and spiteful”

—Pope Francis

Vindictive people can make life a living hell, plain and simple—they just turn my stomach. Why they are the way they are is beyond my imagination but I guess I have no choice but to pray for them. I don’t know about you, but I have no time in my business or personal life to spend being vindictive or spiteful. Vindictive people thrive on each other. They make it their mission to use what they feel is their “power” to belittle or shame people like you and me.

Unfortunately, we all have to deal with these people on a regular basis. It’s “HOW” we deal with them that is important. Vindictive people will wear you down. They will suck the energy out of you, so the faster you get them out of your life the better. Taylor Swift has a new song out called “SHAKE IT OFF.” In the song, Taylor points out all the people that chided her with negative, senseless aspersions, yet she chose to take the attitude of just “shaking them off” and have nothing to do with them. While Miss Swift is only 24 years old, this 57 year old man thinks that she is offering all of us some pretty good advice.

So if you encounter any of these miserable people, adopt Taylor Swift’s attitude and just SHAKE THEM OFF. At the end of the day they aren’t worth a second thought and they should be left alone in their own misery. So SHAKE THEM OFF!!! Your reward will be that you have soared above them leaving them in your rear view mirror with a POSITIVE path to success ahead of you.

See you out there

Gary Schwary
NMLS#258980
909-816-1141
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